How to chat with girls and learn how to say goodbye to being single immediately

A guide on how to pursue girls written by a girl. You will say goodbye to being single after reading this.

From a girl’s perspective, I understand girls’ psychology better. Most girls will not take the initiative to pursue the boy they like, except for those who really like him too much or those who are brave and have a strong personality. So, if you like a girl very much and think she is also interested in you, then take the initiative and don’t engage in a tug-of-war with her. It will make you feel uncomfortable and the person you like may also feel miserable.

When a girl is being pursued, she will have a complicated mentality. She may be very happy, but also a little scared. She has a contradictory mentality of wanting to reject but also to welcome this boy who broke into her peaceful life. She is not doing it on purpose. Don’t think she is testing you. She is actually struggling with herself and is afraid of being hurt.

Don’t be afraid that your initiative will make her feel disgusted. If you don’t take the initiative, she won’t take the initiative either, and the relationship will fade away slowly. If she rejects your initial confession, that’s normal. Don’t be discouraged. Who knows what this girl is thinking?

Maybe if you confess twice, she will be moved by you. A good girl with a kind heart is easily moved.

If you get frustrated, you leave immediately and never talk to the girl again, protect yourself tightly, and lick your wounds silently. While you are in pain, you don’t know that the girl may also feel regret and remorse in her heart! Maybe she will cry secretly and regret rejecting you. When she sees your indifferent eyes, she is also very sad, but she will not tell you and will never ask you to come back to chase her. Your excessive self-esteem may hurt the sensitive heart of the girl.

She will think that you don’t really like him, otherwise why would you give up on her like that?、

Some people say that it is really difficult for boys to pursue girls. But I feel that this phenomenon is inseparable from the social role positioning of men and women. From a physiological and social perspective, women are always passive. If the opposite is true, men are shy and women are brave, the world will be in chaos! Women’s shyness is always beautiful and touching. I always hear that some brave man overcame many difficulties and finally won the heart of a beautiful woman. There are very few examples of the opposite.

Some boys are afraid that others will say they are clinging and giving them a bad reputation. But I think that if a boy pursues a girl he likes and continues to be nice to her even after a few setbacks, it means that he really likes her and is sincere. If he fails, he won’t regret it. It’s nothing, right? Who lets the girl like him? I hate others to meddle in other people’s affairs, and I also hate boys who have no ideas of their own and care too much about what others think of them. They deserve not to find a girlfriend.

If you are a man, be brave. Girls are emotional and easily immersed in love. Although you have worked hard, once your sincerity touches her, you will get more and longer double love. Such examples are everywhere around us. Girls are very gentle and considerate to their boyfriends. In exchange for this sweetness, what is the hard work at the beginning? And most good girls love very devotedly and exclusively.

Therefore, I suggest that some boys be brave enough to pursue the girls they like, and don’t be so timid. First, it will make people think you are not manly, and second, it will make you feel uncomfortable. But the most important thing is: in the end you will get nothing. Happiness is always earned by yourself, don’t expect others to give it to you!

I would like to add that I think it is good to be proactive because your target is someone you really like. Girls are often passive and can only choose to accept or reject. So I would rather take the initiative, love who I love, and have no regrets!

1. What kind of first impression should you leave on girls (time: just starting to contact girls)

I think the most important thing is to let girls see your ambition.

The greatest charm of a man lies in his successful career. Young people who have not worked for a long time cannot be called “successful”. At this time, you have to let girlsfeel that you are an ambitious person.

You can talk nonsense about other things, but this question cannot be vague. You must tell girls that you are full of confidence in the future, you are not satisfied with the status quo, and you have a long-term plan. In short, your future is not a dream.

Be confident and responsible

Don’t be like a child. Girls are lazy and hope to find someone to rely on. You have to show your confidence and sense of responsibility.

It is always better to have a wrong choice than no choice.

Don’t be too serious, but don’t be too casual

Be serious when it is serious, and tease when it is time to tease.

Girls like men who are a little cynical, so don’t seem to care about everything. That’s too dull.

Appear more mature

A man who is calm and unhurried in the face of difficulties has a fatal attraction to girls.

2. How to make further contact with girls (time: the beginning of the pursuit phase)

The most important thing at this stage is not to be anxious, and not to make things so clear that people can see at a glance that you are pursuing them.

Think about it, most people will not like you at first sight, but they will not hate you at first sight. They are all children of ordinary people (unless you look like Chow Yun-fat, Andy Lau or Kevin Costner). Good impressions need to be realized as they get to know each other more and more, so the key to the problem is the opportunity for further development you want.

From the perspective of girls, think about it for them: if you rush over so directly to make a date, girls will definitely feel psychological pressure. If they find that they don’t like you after a while of contact, wouldn’t it be playing you? So if you start to show a posture of being determined to win, you will basically be immediately suppressed.

Start with a low profile

First of all, you should position the relationship as “friends”. Originally, it was “ordinary friends”. You hope to become “good friends”. If you have taste, you can also ask the other party to become a “confidante” or something. In short, don’t say “pursue you”.

Think about it, if you don’t mention “chasing” at all, then the girl will have no chance to “reject” you – how can she reject you if you don’t chase her? !

This can reduce the psychological pressure of girls and enable you to communicate smoothly. Don’t fantasize that she will agree to marry you after knowing you for three days. You must fully communicate and understand each other. Feelings don’t come out of thin air.

Don’t be too impatient during the relationship

There should be a balance between tension and relaxation. Don’t pester others all day long. If someone treats you like this, you will get tired of it. A good friend of mine told me that the key to chasing girls is eight words – “hot and cold, playing hard to get” (this is the result of my classmate’s years of hard work).

If you pester others all day long, they naturally don’t think you are good. If you are cold for a day or two, the girl will remember the benefits of you being there.

Also, don’t show the ambition of “not marrying anyone but you”. It’s not good to be too cheap. Sometimes you can play some tricks.

Create opportunities appropriately

As mentioned earlier, don’t make things immediately become “you are chasing others”, and you need to get the opportunity to get close to girls. At this time, it depends on your creativity.

You can collect intelligence and try to turn waiting into an encounter; you can also pretend to be casual and find the most sufficient reason to invite the other party to do something with you.

In short, this is the most technical part. If you really can’t do it, you can ask your seniors for advice.

Be careful: it is impolite to give people gifts casually

Some people are eager to pursue girls and like to buy things for them frequently, but they don’t know that this is the most taboo in pursuing girls.

As the saying goes, “no reward without merit”, giving people things like this is putting pressure on them. They will feel that they owe you, so they will find a way to return it to you. If they can’t return it to you, they will find a way not to associate with you, so as not to always owe you favors.

If you want to show your sincerity, you might as well ask girls to spend money together, such as finding a good restaurant to eat, or finding an expensive place to play together. Girls can naturally see that you have spent a lot of money, but the money is spent by two people after all, not turned into things to take home.

3. What is a “girlfriend”?

“Girlfriend” is a fact, not a promise

You start dating a girl, from “ordinary friends” to “good friends”, and then to “very, very good friends who can talk about anything”. On a sunny afternoon, you “accidentally” pull her hand; “the moon is on the willow branches”, you suddenly attack and kiss her. At this time, she is already your girlfriend. Whether she admits it or not, she already thinks you are her boyfriend.

I know the smartest one, who didn’t ask “Are you willing to be my girlfriend” until they went to bed, and finally the girl was anxious: “Why don’t you ask me to be your girlfriend!”

So, don’t rush to break the window paper, the more vague the situation is, the better it is for you.

What is “confession”?

As mentioned earlier, confession is actually just a formality. The correct order should be: in fact, she has become your girlfriend, then you can confess to her, and it will come naturally. Many people don’t understand this problem. They always think that the other person should agree to be their girlfriend first, and then do this and that. I can only say that it is very “simple” and very “stupid”.

3. Are there times when you “have to confess”?

Yes, for example, there is a third party, or your relationship with the girl is not mature but the two of you may be separated for a period of time.

At this time, the confession is an immature confession, which is very risky, similar to the situation when playing Go, the situation is serious, and the lagging party is forced to release the “winning hand”. If you win, you win, and if you lose, you can only say “bad luck is born”.

Don’t say the word “love” easily

I often see “bold confessions” appearing in forums. To be honest, I really think this is a very immature performance. “Love” is a sacred word, which means pursuit, commitment, and even reflects a kind of responsibility.

Men who say “love” casually are irresponsible.

Civilized love, don’t force it

Not every girl can be pursued

Good girls will always be pursued by many people. It is impossible to fulfill everyone’s wish. There will always be losers. For example, even if you study hard and master the most super principle of pursuing girls, you still can’t catch up with any of the twins.

Consider the problem from another angle. Even if a rural nanny who didn’t graduate from elementary school is good to you and earns 600 yuan a month to buy you 700 yuan gifts (overdraft), and is willing to “work like a cow and a horse” for you, you will not fall in love with her. If she cries and pesters you every day, you will definitely feel annoyed.

So love needs a material foundation, at least it needs balance.

Pursuing girls is a serious social activity

Don’t annoy others, and leave yourself a way out. A real man will never worry about not having a wife? Some girls are indeed snobbish (a minority). If you are not convinced, you can work hard and use facts to prove that “she was blind at the time”. Don’t mislead others or yourself.